There is an opinion that excessive aggression, private tantrums, depression, nervousness, are the hallmarks of a lack of intimacy. Many of us are looking at furious boss or colleague to think "sex you lack," etc.
It turns out that this statement is misleading. The relationship behavior and lack of sex is not scientifically proven. But at the same time themselves sexologists say that the difference between a crowd of people suffering from a lack of intimate relationships, it is possible. On the status of single women without words indicate her sad eyes. A man has no physical contact with the fair sex, give gestures and facial expressions. Of course, cultural traditions are still favored a strong floor, and unlike women, men tend to do not hesitate to come and the first to start a dialogue with a specific purpose. But what about those who have already forgotten about the rules of dating or so buried his "I", which is simply shy to open up?
If such a situation - your case, experts recommend not to get hung up on the problem and seek ways to solve it. I do not think that such a disaster could happen only to you, while the others are all well - intimate "downtime" happen in the lives of almost all adults. If you want to reduce the waiting time of physical happiness, to take action. Try to get to the root of the problem, to understand why your sex life is zero. The reasons can be many. The most popular of them - complex over the imperfections of your body, fear of open to a stranger, a bad experience a previous relationship, etc.
Brakes for the transition to the close contact and social factors are . The lack of work or money can beat the male psyche so much that it will certainly impact on sexual function . And to respond to sexual abstinence people can quite differently, it all depends on the temperament of the individual . In the melancholic, for example, the so-called adaptation mechanism can "refuse" very quickly . People of this type of "downtime" formed neuroses, depression may use alcohol or drugs . Sanguine will be all sorts of ways to try to find a way out and, in the end, will decide the issue of abstinence, finding a partner, or simply switching its power to address any other important tasks of life . Choleric tend to go to extremes . In the context of sexual abstinence, they can easily become addicted to alcohol (as, indeed, may sublimate and become the author of a masterpiece, here for the decisive role played by cultural factors, including education) . Phlegmatic, by reason of their nature, may not notice that no longer had sex, it is unlikely to somehow affect his psyche and nerves surrounding .
Can you live without sex?
The founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud was convinced that sexual desire - is a manifestation of the innate psychic energy, which can not always be "locked" in the body, because it needs a way out, discharge . If for some reason it does not get output in the body increases the voltage that can drive a person to neurosis . Freud believed that withstand the sexual impulses that find no discharge, a healthy person can not - the process requires too much vitality . However, many psychiatrists and sexologists today is not so categorical . According to them, you can build a love life and sexuality as such cycling . Expressing their feelings in words, gestures, gentle touch, switching unencumbered sexual potential to work, sports, children, we may well find inner balance . Often, concerns about the lack of sex occurs just under the pressure of social stereotypes, while the immediate discomfort, it does not give a person . However, this statement is true, especially in relation to women . Go without sex weaker sex more easily than men, because women have a wider palette to express their feelings . For men sex is largely a realization of the emotional nature, which is reflected in women without sexual contact . Nevertheless, among the strong half as many of those who live in abstinence .
The demand of sex in all different. In our sex drive affects eating habits, age, overall health, especially sexual constitution, education, mental health, etc. From intimate relationships refuse, for example, recovering from sexual trauma. Or those who because of life circumstances or personal characteristics for a long time can not find a permanent partner, but time does not suit you. It also happens that the chosen abstinence, not even noticing that this choice is made, essentially authoritarian parent who controls life has adult son or daughter, trying to calm the father or mother, children unconsciously demonstrate their asexuality. But be that as it may, one of the most important factors in the reduction of sexual life is our own desire to make it.
What to do?
If you feel that you can safely go without sex for a start stop worrying that you do something wrong. Life goes on, and all that is done, it is done for the better! Maybe you had the great chance to direct their energies in a different direction. If you were formed on the problem - it's time to solve them, carefully weighing every step, if you want to splash out energy - it's time to do business for the soul. I want new experiences? Open horizons! Exit the house and walk, communicate, get acquainted. It is likely that with the mood sex overtake you quickly!
If you do not know what should be addressed in the resulting free time, use one of the following tips conducted by psychologists:
* Improve your body, so that when sexual intercourse not to think about ugly deposits and cellulite.
* Explore their sexuality. Self-satisfaction is not only "like" the body an important part of our life and supports the needs at the right level, but also allows you to get to know yourself, your preferences, erogenous zones, rhythms, and so on.. These knowledge you'll need to further sexual contact with a partner.
* Analyze your sexual past. What you're happy or not happy in a partner? What criteria did you choose them, but they - you? What sex liked and what is not? And most importantly: what would you like in the future and how do you plan to achieve this? Following the plan drawn up, you will be less deviate from deliberate decisions adopted a little earlier, thus freeing themselves from the repetition of past mistakes.
* Visit the therapist and / or sex therapist to help you understand yourself and establish sex life.
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