Married life in the past it had their own traditions, and very strong. In ancient Rome, for example, the marriage bed is not used to sleep, and was intended solely for lovemaking. In the Victorian era among the British, family ties, it was also not accepted sleep together in one bed . In Russia until the revolution in the privileged and aristocratic circles of society it was considered normal to have separate double bedrooms. And even in peasant huts husbands and wives slept in different places.
It is believed that the tradition sleep together in one bed It has evolved with the advent of the industrial revolution, when people began to move to the city. Tiny apartments provide spouses living space is very limited, and they were vnuzhdeny share a bed for two.
Bedroom - a reason for neurosis
Does it makes sense sleeping separately ? We know that Ayurveda recommends spouses sleep in the same bed . A number of modern scientific studies also show that when the couple sleep together, it often causes various disorders of psycho-emotional health - neuroses, stress, insomnia.
When the couple sleep together Their nervous systems are not fully rest, and people can not fully relax. Symptomatic women suffer this inconvenience is much easier than men. For the male psyche need to share his bed is a potential irritant. The men laid the unconscious desire to protect their place of accommodation from possible enemy - this quality is something of an instinct (which, incidentally, makes a man a defender of family, country, etc.) and even in a dream a man continues to perform the function of energy protection. Therefore, the presence of another person near him annoying, makes it impossible to relax until the end. According to experts the man needs a few years to his subconscious got used to the fact that close to someone is sleeping.
When the couple sleep together Physiological needs and characteristics of each of the partners also have consequences. For example, most young women cold at night, but with the age of the female body begins to heat up because of menopausal hot flashes. A man over the years may begin to wake up frequently at night to use the toilet - affected prostate problems. Because of such "trifles" Partners often wake up, fall asleep out of time and as a result suffer from lack of sleep. Meanwhile sleep deficit It can cause depression, irritability, fatigue, vision disorders (itching, burning eyes), heart disease.
Author of numerous studies on the topic of marital "hanging out" in the bedroom, an American professor Paul Rosenblatt interviewed dozens of couples. And he came to the conclusion that part of the bedroom is "a hotbed of tension," where between husband and wife regularly flare up disputes and quarrels. For example, the couple arguing and cussing because if you can start up to your bed pets, or from the fact that someone in bed smoking, snoring, watching TV, kicking, pulling the blanket over himself, rustles newspaper, or, say, does not turn off your mobile phone. Often bitter disputes erupt because of the open vent or not completely closed the door to the bedroom, air conditioning included night go radiator. Or, for example, the couple arguing on the hour to have an alarm clock, if they need to go to work at different times.
According to the professor, in many cases, the problem could be solved simply live in different beds. "But the people sitting in the minds of stereotype - says Rosenblatt. It is believed that the couple sleep together so naturally! "In many cases, the couple asleep in bed just by habit, although physical and mental ease it would be better to change this habit.
Experts advise: in bed together for some reason, the couple denied the healthy and full of sleep, it makes sense to try sleeping separately . However, before you make a choice, is to talk with each other and work together to look for compromises. Perhaps the partners agreed to revise its behavior in bed and corrected, - to still sleep together.
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