Love without sex: true stories

Surely in these days it happens - when the love is, and no sex?

In the history of mankind there have been periods when love and sexual relationship   We can not communicate with each other. In the Victorian era romantic-minded person looking for Love without sex   - Too lofty a sense it was considered. Silver Age poets dreamed of a beautiful stranger without them no bodily claims. But we live in a different time, you might say. Sexual relations   in modern culture is not perceived as something indecent or secret, and no one was shocked.

This is true. But the area of ​​human sexuality - far have not read the book. Experts studying her face with a lot of contradictions, complexes and complex combinations. For example, one of the paradoxes - why partners are attracted (often a relative), and seemingly quite prepared for sexual relations And do not bring your communication to a logical climax intimate, or even avoid this moment. What works here - fear, uncertainty, excessive sensitivity, the disease finally?

In sexology there is a belief that sometimes people are suitable to each other as sexual partners, addicted scenario friendship and begin to think that sex will ruin the wonderful relationship that there is between them. And the more they inflated (or one of them) the value of friendship, the more difficult it becomes to perceive them in a different way - for example, sexual. And to keep this friendship, they try to turn their attention to other people. While it may feel attracted to each other.

It contributes to the development of relations without sex   and the Internet. It is virtually limitless possibilities for fantasy - can be given by any person they excellent quality and fall in love with him already in absentia. If a date in reality is less exciting than it appeared, then you can quickly collapse and revert to a computer that does not interfere with play out imagination. In addition, the virtual human relations is much easier to decide on the frankness than in relation to this, that only reinforces the Internet preference. And the role of the perfect lover in the Internet gives a lot easier.

Love without sex: true stories

Marina autumn vacation in Egypt. Almost before the homecoming she met with Dima. The young man was living in St. Petersburg and was remarkably similar to her beloved actor Keanu Reeves. "We spent two most wonderful day of my life, - says Marina. I definitely liked him, Dima and his smile ... I immediately started quickens the pulse!"

When Marina was leaving it in the confusion he did not ask her phone number. And leave itself room to stop her pride.

It's been a few months, but Dima does not leave the girl out of my head. "I can not forget it, I think about us all the time, I see him in a dream. What a fool I was, that did not leave him the phone. I have fans, but I only need it ...."

Psychologists say that very often taken for true love feelings that have no direct relation to it. For example, we can wake up the basic instinct, and we are unconsciously looking for a sexual partner and parent to its possible offspring. In this case, may break out a burning passion and attractive for us, first of all, are the appearance and physical characteristics of man. When interest begins to wane physical, dry out and romantic feelings. But if the partner is sexually attractive for a long time, you may develop a true love.

Katya year ago divorced her husband, fell in love with another man. Neither of which reciprocity is no question. The fact that love with Katherine in a colleague who might not even aware of her feelings. "At first I carefully hid. And then suddenly, Sergei quickly went up the hill, his career has grown rapidly. And now I'm afraid of him to admit his feelings, because he can suspect me of self-interest ..."

Not knowing what to do, she continues to love silence.

Such love resembles the slavish dependence - "nothing pleases in life - quietly suffer and think only about him ..." hidden in it, oddly enough, an unconscious calculation, desire for success, wealth, recognition of - in short, everything that lacking in their own lives. If the calculation is done correctly and the second side really need to get it all the time needed, admired and idolized her, the relationship can emerge quite successfully.

Alexander - a very successful and wealthy man. But he wants to be loved not for money and opportunities, and in spite of everything. Sasha, he says, has long been looking for a girl with pure thoughts. But so far without success. "I have to check them. We communicate, we go somewhere else, but to her I did not call, and the bed is not dragging. With sex I have no problems, but not so on this way. I want to love me as a person, as a I myself, not as a mechanism to satisfy desires. But the girls, it seems, it's hard to understand ... "

Recognize true love can be at the stage of dating partners when it seems that they "know hundred years." But sometimes people do not even realize that they share such a strong feeling - the relationship can develop very ordinary and simple, without ardent passion and emotional intensity. On the part of such an alliance may even seem ordinary and boring. But the real love - it's a state of mind. And my heart good when calm.

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