When the first excitement die down and the strong emotions associated with the birth of the baby, his parents recall about the intimate lives. This period is often accompanied by anxiety. Partners understand that now their sexual relationships are built differently
When return to the intimate life?
Gestation It contributes to their sex life adjustments. Sex It can even be stopped completely - for example, because of the strong toxicity or threat of miscarriage. Sometimes - because of the special psychological state of the future mom or dad. And after giving birth again be necessary in abstinence for 6 weeks. A woman's body should be back to normal, otherwise it may begin inflammation.
Often the woman has become a mother, do not rush into the arms of a partner. This is understandable. Have a baby creates a situation of constant bustle, sleepless nights and anxiety. A typical story: tired mom did not have the time nor on any husband.
Yet sexologists advised not to wait for an indefinite "bright future." Living in anticipation of not living in the moment - a fatal error. So intimate is necessary to restore even if the lack of sleep and congestion. Otherwise abstention gradually become a habit, and the husband - in a sexless creature, and will "fall asleep" so tightly that wake them up then it will be easy.
Time for a change
Women's genitals changed because of the sensitivity of labor and familiar erogenous zones It has become unpredictable. His body will have to "open" again - without false modesty, and looking back on stereotypes.
Keep in mind, the external genitalia may look swollen and increased in size - is a consequence of hormonal release provoked by pregnancy and childbirth. No complex! Soon they will be no less exciting than before.
Affection and petting - "first signs" of sex returning. During those 6 weeks after childbirth When ingress is banned, they compensate for the need for sensual pleasures. And give affection and cuddling during this period should be as often as possible - it is the best evidence of mutual gratitude. In addition to the couple, they can be a source of feelings and sensations that they have not visited before.
Attention! If mom kept low mood, it is required to consult with a doctor to restore the old emotions.
Return desire
One effective way to return the sensuality and good form is an intimate gymnastics. Here is her technique:
- Slowly, for 4-5 seconds, draws in the muscles of the anus and vagina.
- Within 5 seconds, hold the muscles tight.
- Slowly, for 4-5 seconds, relax your muscles. Relax for 5 seconds and repeat the exercise.
- In one approach, make it 30 times. Perform daily (at least one approach) for 2-3 weeks.
You should know that childbirth can dull the sensitivity in the clitoris, because it is physically affected the passage of the baby's head. Experts recommend mommy to improve blood circulation in this area of the body. To do this 2-3 times a day for 5-10 minutes should be vtirayt to the clitoris or ointment Solkoseril Venoruton. This procedure can start doing immediately after birth and then practice for a long time. Contraindications for it can only be idiosyncrasy.
Savory affection
Lasky intimate areas should not remain in the past, if there are no restrictions - occurred during childbirth breaks or cuts. Do not be shy to talk to the partner about this feature, and even more to endure the pain. However, if the pain does not go a long time, it is necessary to visit a gynecologist and find out how to heal joints.
Touching breasts should be limited only if the woman is nursing her child or worried hypersensitivity after childbirth .
If the spouse is very difficult to wait for the expiry of abstinence, regular sex can be replaced by oral or bring her husband to orgasm with the help of petting. Both partners need to use all the features to look for new ways to bring each other pleasure - no sexual taboos in this sense does not exist. Incidentally, when the husband is aware that his wife's orgasm can be achieved without an erection, he could not help giving more time tenderness and affection ceases to hurry and worry about what might come to the final, too fast.
In order not to be distracted
Mom is constantly tuned to the wave of your child and at the slightest sign of anxiety (often imaginary) loses all desire to have sex. She was at that time only one thing - to be together. Often young mothers say that they can not switch to love. They always expect that you may need a little.
Psychologists advise: do not try to look into the future. It is after all still come, you expect it or not. So do not listen to what has not happened yet, indulge in caresses without looking back. Tell yourself: "I want, and everything else can wait."
Well, if you know what a baby sleep schedule. Some kids are deeply asleep during the first half an hour after the laying. Others, on the contrary, hard to sleep only one hour and a half. But in any case, the "quiet time" is formed. That's it and you can use to love.
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